Happy Father’s Day: For Us or With Us.

Father’s Day weekend provides yet another wonderful opportunity to reflect on the annual dad’s scorecard. Every father worth his salt would definitely do the same. I hope yours is painless, I recall one a while ago that changed my life.

… I excitedly and eagerly asked my ‘crew’ why that particular Father’s day was special ? I sat back and longed to hear echoes of praise but slowly had to face the ‘bitter’ truth, that particular weekend was hopefully an opportunity for them to spend some time with me. What!!! To exacerbate the issue, our prioritized lists were exact opposites.

Imagine this! My methodical plan for the future wasn’t as important neither was my ‘burning’ desire or quest to serve my generation. How about the daily sacrifices ? I asked! Nice and appreciated they blurted but don’t you get it…it’s not about what you do for us as much as it is about what you do with us.

The next few minutes seemed like an eternity as I yearned for some answers. Literally examples of the ‘what you do with us’…Innocent answers from innocent children ? Absolutely not.
I’ll share some…
I like and appreciate you because you make me feel safe in the park.
I like you when you play soccer in the park with us or basketball or baseball.
You rock because I get to travel with you on holidays.
I like you because you dance and sing with us.
I like you because you help me with my homework.

Do your research, find out if you deserve an honorable mention this Sunday or an award ?

I love this quote then because it captures the ‘daily grind’ in fatherhood.
He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it. ~Clarence Budington Kelland

This one epitomizes living in the moment and understanding the worth of a life.
My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, “You’re tearing up the grass.” “We’re not raising grass,” Dad would reply. “We’re raising boys.” ~Harmon Killebrew

How about these quotes ?
It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons. ~Johann Schiller

“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.” — Sigmund Freud

“Any man can be a Father but it takes someone special to be a dad.” — Anne Geddes

“Fathers, like mothers, are not born. Men grow into fathers – and fathering is a very important stage in their development.” — David M. Gottesman

See then that it’s beyond the title or the label. It is what one does with the title or label that matters.

To all the fathers who daily support, mentor, affirm, encourage, empower, correct, instruct, love and cherish their special gifts from God as well as the foster parents, single mothers, laymen, volunteers and other members of the community who in many ways bridge the gap and remain committed to developing and nurturing today’s children…

More than the gifts and the special treatment…it is all about the  ‘doing WITH US’. 

Well, Happy Father’s Day.
pF