‘7’ Insights for Your Journey.


  • “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7. In order words, YOU ARE YOUR THOUGHTS.


  • “The fundamental fact of existence is that this trust in God, this faith, is the firm foundation under everything that makes life worth living. It’s our handle on what we can’t see. The act of faith is what distinguished our ancestors, set them above the crowd.” Hebrews 11:1-2 MSG
  • “To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.” – Anatole France


  • “If you fall to pieces in a crisis, there wasn’t much to you in the first place.” – Proverbs 24:10
  • “Life doesn’t get easier, you just get stronger.” – Anon


  • “And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” – Abraham Lincoln


  • “An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.


  • “Only the daring, can sing in the midst of the storms.” & “Praise and Worship (vertical) is the antidote to Hero Worship (horizontal).”


  • “Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him…”Psalm 37:5a
  • “Don’t feel your way into your commitments; COMMIT your way into your FEELINGS!!” – Ed Young

Finally, don’t forget –
5 Trust the Lord with all your heart, and don’t depend on your own understanding. 6 Remember the Lord in all you do, and he will give you success. 7 Don’t depend on your own wisdom. Respect the Lord and refuse to do wrong. Proverbs 3:5-7


New Book: “Relationships-do-Matter” Coming Soon!

Relationships happen! Sometimes, they happen naturally and in some cases spontaneously, but making them LAST takes effort, insight and wisdom. In my book, “Relationships do Matter”, the tools necessary to sustain relationships are introduced in a deliberate attempt to extend the ongoing conversations on Relationships.

This is a must have, must read book because:

  • Relationships Matter!!!
  • Relationships do Matter!!!
  • Relationships really do Matter!!!

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Whitney took America to Church…(Feb 18th, 2012)

America went to Church.

America went to Church on Saturday, when Whitney’s mother decided to hold a burial/farewell ceremony in Church, what transpired afterwards is nothing short of remarkable. There are other numerous lessons and angles to every story especially those involving celebrities, but here is my ‘extremely subjective’ observation of the events on Saturday, February 18th, 2012.

These comments were not lost on me…

  1. Tyler Perry‘s emphasis on Grace. I can relate because the prodigals understand their second chances are due to the G.R.A.C.E of God. (God’s Riches At Christ‘s Expense).
  2. Death is not the final answer. According to Bishop Jakes, Death isn’t permanent…it’s a route! Death has no more sting.
  3. Kevin Costner‘s story about his background in a Baptist church was enlightening. ‎”Tongues” he mentioned at some point during his speech and that made me smile. The gospel preached…anyway, anyhow God be praised!
  4. Times Square was in on the action too, click here http://instagr.am/p/HKAsCIPjsL/ remember the injunction that the gospel must be preached to the nooks and crannies of the world? Thanks to CNN, a generation that had never attended a church service saw one from the comfort of their homes. PS: People get ready…Jesus is coming back very soon.
  5. A language you don’t understand is normal in church…Rev Marvin Winans (paraphrased) and when he preached on PRIORITIZING, a message on seeking God’s Kingdom first, I found it touching and pertinent to all of us in this Nation. It’s time we get back to God indeed and sincerely. We must not think for a moment that being a Christian (a believer in Christ) is irrelevant! Abundant life is in Christ.

Whitney’s passing, highlighted something many of us underestimate, the importance of HOME.

  • She had a ‘HOME’, where she began, learnt about God, a place where she discovered her gift and started using her gift.
  • She knew her ‘HOME’, not the structure but the faces and the people who fondly referred to her as Nippy and openly expressed their grief and pain.
  • She remembered her ‘HOME’, she didn’t forget her roots despite her meteoric rise to fame.
  • She love her ‘HOME’.


Let me remind you please –

  • Don’t forget your ‘HOME’.
  • Don’t forget the ‘little things’ while you pursue the ‘big’ things.
  • Don’t forget tomorrow is not guaranteed, make sure you invest today wisely.
  • Don’t forget that G.R.A.C.E is so readily available for all. Contact me for more details, EMAIL ME

Now let the church say Amen…

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2012- Top 10 Quotes

The top 10 love quote countdown has ended and here are the top 10 love quotes for 2012.  Don’t forget that ‘True love is about the ultimate sacrifice, the act of giving the best.’

Top 10 Love Quotes

10:”Love is the total absence of fear. Love asks no questions. Its natural state is one of extension and expansion, not comparison and measurement. -Gerald Jampolsky”

9: “When you are in love you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” – Dr. Seuss

8: “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of withering’s, of tarnishing’s.” – Anais Nin

7: “You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.” – Barbare De Angelis

6: “Love… What is love? Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be.’ -Chris Moore

5: “Whoso loves believes the impossible.” –Elizabeth Barrett Browning

4 “Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.” SOS 3:5b MSG

3: “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller

2: “Love never fails” 1 Cor 13:8

1: “For God so LOVED the world that He GAVE His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 NKJV

My Friend.

Hello All,TGIF!
To celebrate friends like you…Enjoy!

One of my favorite quotes by C.S. Lewis, “Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather is one of those things that give value to survival.” I stumbled across this story and I think you will (OK you might) like it. PS: Keep your good friends close.

Horror gripped the heart of a World War-I soldier, as he saw his lifelong friend fall in battle. The soldier asked his Lieutenant if he could go out to bring his fallen comrade back. “You can go,” said the Lieutenant,” but don’t think it will be worth it. Your friend is probably dead and you may throw your life away. “The Lieutenant’s words didn’t matter, and the soldier went ahead. Miraculously, he managed to reach his friend, hoisted him onto his shoulder and brought him back to their company’s trench. The officer checked the wounded soldier, then looked kindly at his friend.

“I told you it wouldn’t be worth it,” he said. “Your friend is dead and you are mortally wounded.” “It was worth it, Sir,” said the soldier.

“What do you mean by worth it?” responded the Lieutenant.
“Your friend is dead.”
“Yes Sir,” the soldier answered,

“But it was worth it because when I got to him, he was still alive and I had the satisfaction of hearing him say….”Jim…I knew you’d come.” !!

Many times in life, whether a thing is worth doing or not, really depends on how you look at it. Take up all your courage and do something your heart tells you to do, so that you may not regret not doing it later in your life.
Author: Anon

Your ‘friend’,

Is Valentine’s Day, OVER RATED ?

Romance is a challenge for many people and I think most men struggle with romance because of it’s inherent abstract nature. Well, considering most men are wired (subjective) to execute tackle tasks and activities with defined goals, it is not surprising then why we, men struggle.

As I travel conducting Relationship Matters Seminars and Singles’ events, I can wholeheartedly confirm this fact, Romance is a mystery, a topic that requires a teachable disposition. In order words, it is something one must learn, do, master and cultivate over and over again.

For more tips on Romance and other relationship insights, you absolutely need to get a copy of my new book, “Relationship Matters for Singles” that will be available next month – March 2012.

So we are about 48 hours removed from Valentine’s day, a day many expressed their love, affection to each other with gifts, candy, flowers and other gift items. In some circles, Valentine’s day is one of the most romantic days of the year.

Beyond Controversy:

My intention here is not to debate or recommend what people should do on Valentine’s day. I do however know that this day provides a perfect opportunity to show love without any reservation especially the redeeming love displayed by God in giving mankind is only begotten son, Jesus Christ.

The history books are filled with numerous stories about the origin of Valentine’s Day. Coincidentally, Valentine’s day is named in honor of an early Christian martyr, a holiday that was established in 496 AD and became associated with romantic love in the Middle Ages. (Additional information about the origin including it’s pagan background can be reviewed further in detail online). By the 15th century, it had evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, sweets, and greeting cards. Today, everyone including school children are involved in the heavily ‘commercialized’ holiday.

Current times:
Indeed, it is a day like no other; the agony, anticipation and associated pressure, of executing a flawless ‘event’ have left many fatigued and exhausted but I digress. Here are some surprising facts that really confirms how ‘big’ this day has become for some especially the retail industry.

  • The Greeting Card Association, an industry trade group, says 190 million Valentine’s Day cards are exchanged annually, making Valentine’s Day the second-most popular greeting-card giving occasion.
  • 65 percent of households send greeting cards on Valentine’s Day.
  • 73 percent of Valentine Day flowers are bought by men, while women buy 23 percent of Valentine flowers.
  • About 45.8 percent of U.S. consumers will exchange Valentine’s Day candy.
  • Even as the economy crumbles, today’s relatively tame Valentine’s Day celebration is expected to generate some $14.7 billion in retail sales in the United States.

A few weeks ago, I asked a simple question, ” Is Valentine’s Day Overrated on the Relationship Matters Page ? And by Over rated; I mean not as good as most people say it is, because it is “rated” higher than it deserves.

As you can probably imagine, the answers were intense, immediate, articulate and clear.
Here are some of the comments I got:


  • If it is wrong to celebrate Val’s day, we might as well just cancel birthdays etc. There’s absolutely nothing wrong in setting aside a day to celebrate love.”
  • Another stated, it is a day designed to remind everyone about their loved ones. A day of romance and spreading love.
  • Here’s another, “It’s all good as long as someone doesn’t go overboard and make me look bad!”
  • Unfortunately, someone stated people need this day as a reminder to appreciate their spouses/significant other.

AGAINST (There was no let down from the other side either)

  • ‎It makes the Singles sad and couples competitive with other couples.
  • It’s too commercialized and heavily based on whether one gets a gift or not.
  • Yet another stated that the the gift exchange has outranked the essence of what’s supposedly being celebrated when it comes to Valentine’s Day.
  • While someone said, I want gifts everyday or every other day especially when I am not expecting it.
  • Another comment was poignant, a ‘forced’ day to celebrate anyone on a specific day is borderline abuse.
  • If you need valentine in order to be reminded of what is and should be important, then you’ve got it twisted.
  • Someone said Valentine day’s is not even scriptural so we should even be talking about it.

Interesting points presented by both sides, this is my opinion though, if you had a wonderful valentine’s day and the following scenarios are true then it is overrated.

  1. If your relationship is back ‘normal’, by normal we mean absolute disregard for each other then valentine’s day is overrated.
  2. If the abuse, disappointment, shouting, shoving, pushing has returned then it is overrated.
  3. If married couples no longer see eye to eye and discuss issues respectfully with decorum, then it is overrated.
  4. If the loving support and intent to make the other individual better is long gone, then Valentine’s day and it’s associated hullabaloo is overrated.

However, if all of the above is not true then how can we say otherwise ?

One thing I do know is this: LOVE is not ‘OVERRATED’… It never fails, it actually cannot fail. It sustains, it does not force itself, it doesn’t keep score, it revolutionizes, nurtures, it doesn’t misbehave, it doesn’t disappoint, does not provoke, does not irritate, and isn’t always ‘me first.’ It says the truth always, does not lie, endures long. (Culled from 1 Cor 13).

It’s been more than 36 hours for all of us (regardless of time zones), let’s move beyond Valentine’s day and focus on celebrating Real Love everyday. Now, that can not be overrated or what do you think ?


Stats source: National Retail Association, http://blog.seattlepi.com/boomerconsumer/2009/02/12/valentines-day-facts-and-figures/

#1 Love Quote

James Baldwin, posit that “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” Love then is powerful, deeper than feelings and a mystery; a divine mystery. To buttress my point, here are some of Love’s attributes:

  • Love never gives up.
  • Love cares more for others than for self.
  • Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
  • Love doesn’t strut,
  • Doesn’t have a swelled head,
  • Doesn’t force itself on others,
  • Isn’t always “me first,”
  • Doesn’t fly off the handle,
  • Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
  • Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
  • Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
  • Puts up with anything,
  • Trusts God always,
  • Always looks for the best,
  • Never looks back,
  • But keeps going to the end.

Love is centered around the premise of an ultimate sacrifice, an act so succinctly captured by Amy Carmichael; “You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving.”

So drum roll please, here is my #1 love quote: “For God so LOVED the world that He GAVE His Only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. John 3:16 NKJV
True love is about the ultimate sacrifice, the act of giving the best. An example clearly modeled by God for humanity. This example works for me…how about you ? Well, enjoy your day and do make love a lifetime commitment and not just a day’s event.



One of mankind’s biggest phobia is failure called Atychiphobia (from the Greek word phóbos, meaning "fear" or "morbid fear" and atyches meaning “unfortunate”).

According to Wikipedia, Atychiphobia is the abnormal, unwarranted, and persistent fear of failure which leads to a constricted lifestyle, and is particularly devastating for its effects on a person’s willingness to attempt certain activities. A person afflicted with atychiphobia considers the possibility of failure so intense that they choose not to take the risk. Oftentimes this person will subconsciously undermine their own efforts so that they no longer have to continue to try.

Failure isn’t normal and I believe that no one is or was born a failure and no one wants to be a failure or sets out to be a failure. Failure leaves behind a stigma, a bitter after taste but I believe it doesn’t have to be final.

Then it’s no wonder then why I love what true love is about and why I appreciate this love quote.
Here is my #2 love quote; "Love never fails". 1 Cor 13:8

Love never fails, Love never fails…never fails.
That should bring a smile to your lips, comfort your hearts and give you hope…love never fails.


True love is more than the five senses or the five methods of perception which include: hearing, sight, touch, smell, and taste. Real love is deeper, wider and longer than the depths of the human soul.

Here is my #3: "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart." – Helen Keller

Hellen Keller who was born in 1880 perfectly healthy until a short bout of illness, supposed to be scarlet fever or meningitis, contracted before her second birthday. The illness left the little girl deaf and blind. Through the kind diligence of Anne Sullivan, who became a governess and lifelong companion for Keller, Helen was able to learn sign, with Sullivan spelling the words into her hand. Keller later became a world-famous speaker and author. (wikipedia)