"If more singles and newly weds will only listen more to their mentors, coaches, pastors and parents (married) especially those who will speak honestly about the joys and trials of marriage, many of the challenges, shock and difficulties in marriage wouldn’t be as challenging as it seems sometimes. Such honest talk will definitely soften the ‘shock, fears and challenges’ especially in the earlier years of marriage.
One of the advice I received and still hold very dear is the counsel to be fair and treat each other kindly and fairly. The injunction to "take care of each other", I can honestly say that stayed with us especially during the earlier years of my marriage when our "differences were more than our similarities".
I like some of the ideas articulated by Winifred Reilly (via The Kindness blog). Here’s an excerpt:
"Most of us step into marriage hoping for a lifetime of love and happiness, knowing far too little about what might give us our best shot at getting there. Many of us assume that because we’re in love, because we have common values and compatible dreams we’ve got everything we need to have a marriage that lasts.
Here’s the advice I wish I’d been given as a newlywed, rather than having had to figure it out on my own:
1. Don’t freak out when marriage turns out to be harder than you expected.
2. Don’t expect sex to stay hot or interesting all on its own for the next sixty years.
3. The sooner you ditch the notion of fairness, the happier you’ll be….
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Now, read the rest of the 7 things here: http://kindnessblog.com/2015/01/13/7-things-about-marriage-i-wish-id-known-as-a-newlywed-by-winifred-m-reilly/