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Casual Sex? Why Sex on the first date is Bad 1

Sex on the 1st Date?
Nothing piques our curiosity/interest like S-E-X. It’s typical and I understand that. I stumbled upon this short video earlier today (via Twitter) and wondered aloud what some of you might think.

No doubt- There is a clear scriptural position on pre-marital sex. Yet we know many are not heeding that injunction and perhaps what’s surprisingly is how some are now justifying such position because of the desire to stay relevant in today’s culture. What’s frightening is the silence on this matter.

So…I found this video post interesting, in that some relationships experts/matchmakers including Paul C. Brunson, Peggy Wolman, Jasbina Ahluwalia, Michelle Jacoby, and Marla Martenson are proponents of not jumping right into bed after a first date. Why don’t you listen (watch) the video below.

Read/Watch the video-

Watch out for Part 2 which highlights additional rationale behind the ‘no sex’ before marriage position.

Remember, Relationships Really Do Matter!

The “One”. #Quote

"To the world, you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world." – Brandi Snyder

The focus must be on finding that ‘one’.
Progressively ‘knowing’ and ‘maximizing’ that relationship.
Conversely if you’ve mistakenly lost that "one", forgive yourself and move on…it isn’t too late to find true love regardless of the past.

Believe me!

10 Habits of Happy Couples (Reblog)

Some of these habits might not be applicable to some couples in all instances but most are…I typically identify a few I can apply and maximize those habits, I want to encourage you to do the same thing here. Additionally would love to hear which ones resonate with you the most. Here’s to your happy relationship(s).

Read on…
Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. They know that unless one maintains the garden of love, its beauty will wither and die.

#1. Go to bed at the same time.
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. And when their skins touch it still causes each of them to tingle and unless one or both are completely exhausted to feel sexually excited.

#2. Cultivate common interests.
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

#3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

#4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

#5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

#6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

#7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

#8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.

#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

#10. Be proud to be seen with your partner.
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Read the entire article by Mark Goulston, M.D here:

Dr. Mark Goulston is psychiatrist, international speaker, and best selling author

Think on this – Don’t internalize others mistakes as yours…

"….One of the biggest mistakes we can make in life is to internalize and personalize our lives based on what happened in someone else’s life or relationship.

What happens in someone else’s life is your standard, don’t establish it as the norm. Let me encourage you to enjoy your own journey as a person even as the Lord both leads you to choosing the best mate for you while at the same time keeps you walking in purity and integrity…." – Ramson Mumba

GOD TV’s Wendy Alec says husband Rory has left her for another woman…

Such a sad story…
I am of the opinion that "exits" (regardless of how challenging or tough) they might be…can and should be handled decently and properly. Simply absconding is wrong, callous and irresponsible to family, friends, children etc.

Additionally, if someone says a partner in another relationship especially marriage is theirs when such individuals are still married to someone else is wrong.

Earlier today, GOD TV’s Wendy Alec says husband Rory has left her for another woman, no longer wishes to be part of ministry…"

Here’s the story of GOD TV’s founders’ marital collapse, this isn’t the end of it though…please keep them in your prayers.

"GOD TV co-founder Wendy Alec has made an emotional live broadcast today in which she disclosed that her husband and ministry partner of over 20 years, Rory Alec, has left her for another woman.

Her comments on Oct. 8 were made after the TV channel confirmed last week that Rory would be stepping aside as chairman and chief executive with immediate effect following an undisclosed "moral failure".

Published by Cath Martin on

Read the entire story here:

3 Ways to Die, but you don’t have to #Die.

These are three ways to die. All by doing something daily.

#1: Puff a cigarette daily, you will die 10 years earlier.
#2: Drink alcohol daily, you will die 30 years earlier.
The third is my main focus – Love someone who doesn’t love you back; you die daily.

Moral of the story-
Don’t die daily- make sure you love the person that he or loves you back.

Image Source (unknown but Acknowledged).
Research’s realibility unknown.

There are no perfect days

There are no perfect days, perfect people or perfect situations.

There are good days and then there are bad days. Or if you prefer, there will be such days. So don’t think you are alone, life in its diverse format happens to all of us.

However, what typically happens is that we over estimate what we don’t have underestimate what we have but if only we "consistently" reverse that scenario…

So today, you might be alone and frustrated…it’s been too long you say. Actually, you might even regret all the "stance and decisions" you made in your earlier days. Don’t look back, It is not in vain.

Or you might be with someone and they don’t get it or you. Or perhaps worse they do but only intermittently…remember, it is well. It will be Well.

This story of a dead son and a mother’s response is a great encouragement to me and hope to you as well. Feel free to share with others, comment or ask questions.

It is Well!

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“Love” yourself

One of our favorite quotes on #Love. Everyone must learn and master the ability to love, especially themselves first.

Talking here about a healthy and affirming love that’s firmly rooted in one’s spirit.

"Women who love themselves are threatening; but men who love real women, more so." – Naomi Wolf