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Why do otherwise progressive men behave differently towards their black wives?” – Palesa Thinane-Epondo

Interesting viewpoint!!!
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"A ‘progressive’ man will adopt a white woman’s culture easily. The same man will treat his black wife ever so differently."

RECENTLY, I watched an episode of “Don’t tell the bride”, the BBC reality TV series where a couple get money to spend on their wedding, with the groom responsible for organising every detail, and surprising the bride while at it.

In this particular show, the groom, a black man of Ghanaian heritage, was marrying a white woman of Irish descent. They made for a lovely couple.

During the ceremony the groom and his groomsmen performed a surprise routine for the bride: they danced the Irish stepdance to symbolise that the groom was heartily embracing his new wife and her culture.

It was all very admirable. Then the following question came to mind: Why is that when a black man marries a woman of a different race, he accepts her for who she is as a person, and even goes as far as adopting aspects of her culture as a part of his newly formed identity, but when he marries a black woman he expects her to become a totally different person from the woman he courted at the beginning of the relationship, so much so that he would even subjugate her and break her spirit, in the name of making her a “traditional and a good African wife”?

So the question, "Why do otherwise progressive men behave differently towards their black wives?" By Palesa Thinane-Epondo is a worthwhile read.

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So, what are we doing?

127QuestionsHello all,  it’s important for everyone to get very comfortable asking this particular question to avoid getting played, or toyed with emotionally.  The ideal position is one that doesn’t  #assume anything in a relationship. I often say that until intentions are declared (revealed), there is no relationship but a simple #jolly ride.

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7 Quotes on Forgiveness & Letting Go


  1. Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” -Ann Landers
  2. “The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.” -Steve Maraboli
  3. “Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” -Mark Twain
  4. “When you forgive, you in no way change the past–but you sure do change the future.” -Bernard Meltzer
  5. “There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.”  -Bryant H. McGill
  6. “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.” -Suzanne Somers
  7. “Without forgiveness, there’s no future.” -Desmond Tutu

Don’t Ask, Are You Racist ?

Don't Ask Are You RacistMany people will not self identify as RACIST but when you consider the increasing hateful and inciting sentiments that are made public via the different media outlets it simply makes one wonder why there is so much racism, ethnic based discrimination, xenophobia etc. in our society.


If only we can just appreciate that there is only one #Human Race! Anyway, I digress…

In relationships it is imperative to understand your innate tendencies  and ensure the future couple (both of you) are on the same page (wave length).

So ask #Questions but please don’t ask leading questions such as “Are you racist rather ask about each other’s perceptions (viewpoints) about the different nationalities, tribes, and ethnic groups. The dialogue that follows will be extremely revealing. Trust me!

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7 Quotes on Building a Legacy



  1. “Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.” -Shannon L. Alder

  2. “If you would not be forgotten as soon as you are dead, either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” -Benjamin Franklin

  3. “The things you do for yourself are gone when you are gone, but the things you do for others remain as your legacy.” -Kalu Ndukwe Kalu

  4. “The only thing you take with you when you’re gone is what you leave behind.” ~John Allston

  5. “I agree with you entirely in condemning the mania of giving names to objects of any kind after persons still living. Death alone can seal the title of any man to this honor, by putting it out of his power to forfeit it.” –Thomas Jefferson

  6. “The greatest use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.” –William James

  7. “You can’t leave a footprint that lasts if you’re always walking on tiptoe.” –Marion Blakely

7 Quotes on Family


Family is vital and must be nurtured consistently. Insightful quotes to consider. #RelationshipsMatter

  1. “I’ve learned through the years that it’s not where you live, it’s the people who surround you that make you feel at home.” -J.B. McGee
  2. “The love of family and the admiration of friends is much more important than wealth and privilege.” -Charles Kuralt
  3. “A happy family is but an earlier heaven.” -George Bernard Shaw
  4. “A man should never neglect his family for business.” -Walt Disney
  5. “Cherish your human connections–your relationships with friends and family.” -Barbara Bush
  6. “In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future.” -Alex Haley
  7. “A man travels the world over in search of what he needs, and returns home to find it.” -George Moore

Do you have a favorite quote to share? Please do so in the comments.

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  1. Questions are doors to the unknown.
  2. Questions lead to new discoveries.
  3. Questions challenge assumptions.
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