Love, Do Good, Succeed Anyway – The Paradoxical Commandments

people are illogicalPeople are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

ParadoxicalCommandmentsPeople favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.
© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001

Love, Do Good, Succeed Anyway – The Paradoxical Commandments

Happy Mother’s Day (1 of 2)

Happy #Mother’s Day!

This is the first of two Mother’s Day in 2015 and marks the celebration of mothers in Nigeria, London and other countries.

Moms are super heroes…and God’s gift to humanity, so today we celebrate all mothers for their steadfast love, passion, consistence, devotion, prayers, grace, belief, hard work and much more.

Thank you so much Moms for all you do and may God bless you all.

From the RelationshipsDoMatter Team

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Happy Mother’s Day (1 of 2)

Powerful #Quotes to consider

Powerful Quotes to rouse sleeping giants from slumber.


Be a DOER not just a DREAMER.

#1: Stop worrying!
“A day of worry is more exhausting than a day of work.” – John Lubbock

#2: Rise up!
“When you are lazy, you must work twice.” – Anon

#3: Stop dreaming, wake up!
“Wishing has never made a poor man wealthy.” – Anon

#4: “All men are alike in their promises. It is only in their deeds that they different.” – (Moliere)

#5: Don’t tell me about invisible faith.
“True faith has hands and feet.” – Anon

#6: Less is more!
“The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.” – Anon

#7: Say NO to mediocrity.
“Anytime you indulge mediocrity in others it increases your mediocrity.

#8: There is no Future in the Past
Your DESTINY and calling in life is always forward, never backward.”

#9: Start Today!
“Someday is not a day of the week.” – Anon

#10: The difference between a fool and a wise man is visible.
“The wise man does at once what the fool does finally.” – Balthasar Gracian

#11: Don’t waste time.
“By the street of By and By, one arrives at the house of never.” – Miguel de Cervantes

Powerful #Quotes to consider

What Love is…

What Love Is

“Some think love can be measured by the amount of butterflies in their tummy.
Others think love can be measured in bunches of flowers, or by using the words ‘for ever.’ But love can only truly be measured by actions.

It can be a small thing, such as peeling an orange for a person you love because you know they don’t like doing it.” – Marian Keyes

Indeed, Love could be a combination of all the actions listed, or some or simply one.

What Love is…

[New Post] How to Make Love With Your Clothes On

BirdCan we be honest? Everyone’s looking for a perfect relationship yet no one is willing to work hard for it.

A vibrant loving relationship is indeed challenging mentally and physically but the feedback from those who put in the hard work and pay the price is encouraging, because they all confirmed the great success that follows the efforts. In their words, the rewards are well worth it! So don’t ‘cop’ out, put in the work necessary.

In the same spirit of being honest, there is no doubt that we all struggle with romance but personally I am finding that the key is in initiating, taking small steps, being consistent and never becoming complacent or insensitive. Some of the insights (tips) I hold dear till date came from David & Anne Frahm’s book, titled “How To Make Love With Your Clothes On” below:

  • The firm foundations of a romantic relationship are built upon the delights of surprise
  • Little things mean the world to women”
  • Catching a woman off guard ‘now and then adds drama to a marriage, that most women crave.

Listed below are 10 ways to make love with your clothes on and I want to dare you to try them out, the results will surprise you.


  1. Leave a ‘provocative’ message for your spouse on the answering machine
  2. Open the car door for her, both getting in and getting out
  3. Call her during the day just to tell her you love her and that you’ve been thinking about her
  4. At an unsuspecting moment, sweep her into your arms and tell her that she’s your best friend
  5. Ask her opinion on an important decision you’ve got to make
  6. Pray with her over her concerns
  7. Compliment her on her appearance
  8. Tape a note to the bathroom scale that says “Just Right”
  9. Surprise her with flowers because it’s true that “Flowers like women, bring beauty into the world and they belong together”
  10. Make time to talk and listen

I will love to hear from you the ones that worked for you as well as others you are trying out or have tried or heard of. In addition, do you need help in your relationship(s), marriage or life? Remember, you are not alone, help is available. Email

Author: ‘Flo Falayi, Ph.D.(c) is a preacher, speaker and author. A husband and father with a passion for reviving and empowering the next generation. Flo hosts and speaks at conferences, seminars and events nationally on Leadership and Relationship Mattters.

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The Power of Choice #Quote

The Power of Choice


  • Choices are the hinges of destiny. ~Pythagoras
  • Life is the sum of all your choices. ~Albert Camus
  • When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.  ~William James
  • It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.  ~Roy Disney
  • The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which to burn.  ~David Russell
  • Indecision becomes decision with time.  ~Author Unknown
  • The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.  ~Flora Whitte
  • ​​Decisions become easier when your will to please God outweighs your will to please the world.  ~Anso Coetzer
  • Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • The inability to make a decision has often been passed off as patience.  ~Author Unknown


[BlogPost] Own Your Life #Commentary

Eventually, we become what we believe.

Take Charge of Your LifeWithout a doubt, I believe that within each one of us are great possibilities, dreams and endless potentials wired divinely by God that are eventually revealed in time. These divine impulses, codes, imprints and possibilities are often ignored, silenced, and discarded as we grow up and face the challenging and often difficult ‘life experiences’ that build the barriers in our hearts and minds.

Transition: Doubts and unbelief.

Eventually, we go from believing all things are possible to accepting only those ‘few’ things that are possible. Gradually, we become a shell of our confident selves and become custodians of limitations due to our life experiences and stories. Trapped and no longer in tune with our destiny, we limit those God given dreams and opportunities within us with being ‘real’ and ‘practical’. We attribute creativity to a select few and literally shut down mentally, creatively and emotionally when new ideas, dreams or visions are discussed or mentioned. We become victims of limitations and the very popular “cold truth” but I refuse that prison term, I know there is a better life.

Our best days lie ahead of us, with our words we can frame our thoughts and those thoughts can guide our actions and eventually set (or reset) our destinies. Each day presents a great opportunity to focus on God’s dream for your life and not getting mad or angry. Regain and reclaim lost time…start with your words;

  • You are not a loser, looking for a lucky break
  • You are not a failure, looking for a good streak
  • You are not an accident or a disappointment
  • You are not hopeless and useless
  • Actually, anyone that calls you a loser is a loser
  • Anyone that calls you a failure is a failure

Man's Power to ThinkYou need to build up the right winning attitude and mindset with your words. Winning isn’t something we seek but something we are. Start each day confirming who you are and declaring who you were born to be. Don’t wait to react to the wrong name(s) when you can set yourself up right by confessing.

The difference between winners and losers sometimes is in their actions. Winners do what losers dream about. Own your life; It’s your noble assignment.

 Listed below are some of my daily declarations:

  • I was born for such a time as this…I belong here.
  • I am highly favored and a beacon of hope
  • I am more than a conqueror
  • I am a creative force
  • The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places
  • I have a great, amazing and divine inheritance
  • I am confident in my God-given abilities
  • I am an excellent masterpiece
  • I have a powerful and sound mind

Feel free to recite or use them for yourself and loved ones. Oh by the way, I am also giving out a work book filled with simple, practical but insightful truths to say over your life and your loved ones each day – it’s FREE so get yours today, Request for yours here 

[BlogPost] Own Your Life #Commentary

[New Post] 25 Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas #Tips

25+ Valentine Gift IdeasValentine’s Day is a few days away and the buildup continues…listed below are some gift ideas ranging from the simple to slightly moderate and a few moderate to hard ones. I hope the list stirs your creativity as you celebrate the one(s) you love.

 Easy-Moderate Effort

  1. Cake or Cookies
  2. Candies
  3. Books – Audio, E-Book or Print
  4. Scented or Unscented Candles
  5. Chocolates
  6. Flowers – Roses
  7. Perfumes
  8. Valentine’s Cards
  9. Gadgets
  10. Tools & Kitchen Utensils
  11. Gym Subscriptions
  12. Spa Treatments
  13. Clothing, Shirts, Briefs & Intimates
  14. Jewelry
  15. Cooking Books, Apps and Books
  16. Movie Tickets
  17. DVDs
  18. Donate to Charity in someone’s name







Moderate-Hard Effort

  1. Create a “Breakfast in Bed” package
  2. Create a personalized card
  3. Cook ‘Dinner’ for 2
  4. Collate his/her favorite music songs – a Valentine’s Day Collections
  5. Bake Cake or Cookies
  6. Give “Time” Gift Cards – in 1, 5, 10, 24 Hours
  7. Volunteer at a local charity event

Oh by the way, a personal recommendation, my book, “Relationships Do Matter”

Relationships-Do-Matter EBook(on Amazon for $2.99), is filled with simple, practical and relevant relationship insights on building and maximizing relationships aimed directly at Singles and indirectly at Couples promises to be a nice Valentine’s Day addition. It is filled with memorable snippets that will inspire, instruct, challenge and provoke you to elevate your relationship IQ. Available on Amazon, get your copy here:  Relationships Do Matter


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