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Be Encouraged.

There are some of us with unmet relationship and life goal(s) that were planned for and expected in 2014 some o these include but not limited to getting married or getting engaged or developing an amazing marital relationship or having a conflict-free home, or finally making peace with in-laws or starting/expanding a business idea and probably some of these goals will not become a reality within the last 11days of this year due to other external factors.

I want to encourage you not to lose Hope.

"You do not give in and give up, you stand strong and firm." We all have bruises, pains and bruises but we also have HOPE.

I want you to #Finish 2014 Strong & #Start 2015 Great

This post titled "The School of Ants" will help you prepare for what’s ahead. Read more here- http://t.co/mK9lItg2t7

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Hello Friends,
FYI…I trust you are well. Just FYI, Friday’s newsletter will highlight some great tips and insights on how one can finish the year, 2014 Strong and Start 2015 on an Amazing note.

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9 years ago…

Some memories never die…

Pastor Bimbo-
Like a bright light, you blazed a trail, taught and impacted many lives and generations.

We Remember You today and pray that those left behind will continue to bear this loss with strength and grace.

Please…Continue to Rest-In-Peace.
We’ll see, when our task is complete here on earth.

Sincerely,
‘Flo & Lande Falayi

How to Be a Great Wife (Even If You’re Single) By Fawn Weaver

Good stuff never gets old…here’s a must read for all especially women. Written by Fawn in Essence Magazine.

Here’s a brief synopsis-

There were 11 common keys that every one of the hundreds of couples I interviewed—from South Africa, Europe, Asia, Australia, North and South America—claimed were their "secrets" to a happy union. All the happily married women I interviewed were some of the strongest women I’ve ever met. Here are the actions I observed of these women from all around the world (gleaned from Fawn’s article in Essence Magazine.

The 11 Keys:
1. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

2. STAY CONNECTED TO GOD.

3. MAKE THE TIME FOR DAILY CHECKUPS.

4. COMMUNICATE YOUR DESIRES CLEARLY AND SUCCINCTLY.

5. PUT YOUR PARTNER’S NEEDS ABOVE YOUR OWN.

6. EMBRACE YOUR LOCAL SOUS CHEF.

7. CHOOSE HAPPINESS DAILY.

8. TAKE TIME OUT FOR FRIENDS, FAMILY AND YOURSELF.

9. TOSS OUT THE LINGERIE (IF IT DOESN’T MAKE YOU COMFORTABLE).

10. LIGHTEN UP.

11. PURSUE YOUR DREAMS.

Now, Read the entire article here: http://m.essence.com/2014/12/07/how-be-great-wife-even-if-youre-single/

Fawn Weaver is a happy wife, best-selling author and creator of Happy Wives Club.

This article originally appeared in the January 2015 issue of ESSENCE magazine on newstands now!

Don’t Quit, Keep Going

Commentary tailored specifically to #RelationshipMatters. Enjoy!

To some extent, it is becoming culturally fashionable to ‘jump ship’ when the going gets tough or rough.

Such that often married folks leave at the slight occurrence of challenges or difficulties. Might I add, "stuff" will happen yet folks must avoid the comfortable rush to discard, abandon or destroy what exists.

"Don’t quit, keep going" is an ideal advice to have even if that involves counseling etc.

And for those single (alone, separated, divorced, never coupled) it is also a wise advice to follow. Don’t Quit on Expectations and Dreams inspire of challenges. One must Continue to move forward and live.

By Continuing, I am referring to living according to deep rooted conviction, belief.

Once a person ‘locks’ into a path of purpose, my recommendation is – don’t deviate. Once you’ve determined a line of action, don’t look back.

You will be worse off changing course(s) midstream except the mandate has changed. So "Keep Going, Don’t Quit"

Here’s additional insight on this same topic here…Read, Comment and Share. http://flofalayi.org/2014/12/05/keep-going-dont-quit/ #FridayDevotional #KeepGoing

Don’t Quit, Keep Going

Commentary tailored specifically to #RelationshipMatters. Enjoy!

To some extent, it is becoming culturally fashionable to ‘jump ship’ when the going gets tough or rough.

Such that often married folks leave at the slight occurrence of challenges or difficulties. Might I add, "stuff" will happen yet folks must avoid the comfortable rush to discard, abandon or destroy what exists.

"Don’t quit, keep going" is an ideal advice to have even if that involves counseling etc.

And for those single (alone, separated, divorced, never coupled) it is also a wise advice to follow. Don’t Quit on Expectations and Dreams inspire of challenges. One must Continue to move forward and live.

By Continuing, I am referring to living according to deep rooted conviction, belief.

Once a person ‘locks’ into a path of purpose, my recommendation is – don’t deviate. Once you’ve determined a line of action, don’t look back.

You will be worse off changing course(s) midstream except the mandate has changed. So "Keep Going, Don’t Quit"

Here’s additional insight on this same topic here…Read, Comment and Share. http://flofalayi.org/2014/12/05/keep-going-dont-quit/ #FridayDevotional #KeepGoing

Be Careful Who You Love – Kelechi Okeahialam #AIDS

image.jpegThe Short Story based on a real life story of a dear friend who died from AIDS after being infected by her husband.

She lay dying in the white, sterile room… colorless save for the mint green divider, forming a shield between her and the other unfortunate soul. It should have been a beautiful day; the warmth of the blazing Lagos sun devoured everything underneath its rays. Yet; she shivered; as she felt the cold fingers of death begin its dance upon her soul…

“I don’t want to be here,” she thought, choking with painful unshed tears. “I have two of the most beautiful children in the world who need me now more than ever… I have dreams unfolding and yet to be unleashed to the world. God, I had a life! Where did I go wrong? Why did my love story become my death sentence?”

She trusted him… She gave herself to him, her dreams, and her hopes. She honored him with the gift of her body; she made love to him with sheer abandon. She was his paramour, his queen, and his girlfriend on the side, his wife. She poured the essence of her soul into their love, dancing with ecstasy in their love dance.

She blossomed under his love; his strong arms were her hiding place, wrapped around her in their love dance; She sang in exultation under his tender tutelage. But look! In comfort of her safe house, her boudoir de l’amour, death came with love. With every kiss, with every passionate stroke, her protector became her murderer…

He died three months ago… her husband, her murderer but not before sentencing her to death. When he made love to them, did he think of her? Of their children? Did he remember her dreams? His promise to protect and cherish her? Surely he should have remembered that with love comes responsibility and the ability to create stability.

“My children, oh my children” she cries silently… would that I would be there your first day in college, your first crush, your first kiss”. A silent scream curls from her throat. “Feel my pain! Feed from it and learn! Love! Yes Love with abandon!

But be careful whom you love…. Lest your lover becomes your murderer.

GLOBAL STATISTICS: HIV/AIDS EPIDEMIC #WAD2014 #AWARENESS

THE GLOBAL HIV/AIDS EPIDEMIC

HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is one of the world’s most serious health and development challenges:

  • According to the World Health Organization (WHO), Exit Disclaimer there were approximately 35 million people worldwide living with HIV/AIDS in 2013. Of these, 3.2 million were children (<15 years old).
  • According to WHO, Exit Disclaimer an estimated 2.1 million individuals worldwide became newly infected with HIV in 2013. This includes over 240,000 children (<15 years). Most of these children live in sub-Saharan Africa and were infected by their HIV-positive mothers during pregnancy, childbirth or breastfeeding.
  • A UNAIDS report Exit Disclaimer shows that 19 million of the 35 million people living with HIV today do not know that they have the virus.
  • The vast majority of people living with HIV are in low- and middle-income countries. According to WHO, Exit Disclaimer sub-Saharan Africa is the most affected region, with 24.7 million people living with HIV in 2013. Seventy-one percent of all people who are living with HIV in the world live in this region.
  • HIV is the world’s leading infectious killer. According to WHO, Exit Disclaimer an estimated 39 million people have died since the first cases were reported in 1981 and 1.5 million people died of AIDS-related causes in 2013.
  • Even today, despite advances in our scientific understanding of HIV and its prevention and treatment as well as years of significant effort by the global health community and leading government and civil society organizations, most people living with HIV or at risk for HIV do not have access to prevention, care, and treatment, and there is still no cure. However, effective treatment with antiretroviral drugs can control the virus so that people with HIV can enjoy healthy lives and reduce the risk of transmitting the virus to others.
  • The HIV epidemic not only affects the health of individuals, it impacts households, communities, and the development and economic growth of nations. Many of the countries hardest hit by HIV also suffer from other infectious diseases, food insecurity, and other serious problems.
  • Despite these challenges, there have been successes and promising signs. New global efforts have been mounted to address the epidemic, particularly in the last decade. Prevention has helped to reduce HIV prevalence rates in a small but growing number of countries and new HIV infections are believed to be on the decline. In addition, the number of people with HIV receiving treatment in resource-poor countries has dramatically increased in the past decade. According to WHO, Exit Disclaimer at the end of 2013, 12.9 million people living with HIV were receiving antiretroviral therapy (ART) globally, of which 11.7 million were receiving ART in low- and middle-income countries. About 740,000 of those were children. This is a 5.6 million increase in the number of people receiving ART since 2010. However, almost 22 million other people living with HIV, or 3 of 5 people living with HIV, are still not accessing ART.
  • Progress has been made in preventing mother-to-child transmission of HIV and keeping mothers alive. According to WHO, in 2013, 67% of pregnant women living with HIV in low- and middle-income countries (970,000 women) received ART to avoid transmission of HIV to their children. This is up from 47% in 2010.

Adults and children estimated to be living with HIV

This overview compiled with information from WHO, Exit Disclaimer UNAIDS, Exit Disclaimer and the Kaiser Family Foundation’s Exit Disclaimer Global Health Policy Division.

LEARN MORE

  • The United States supports a wide range of activities—from research and development to technical assistance and financial support to other nations—to combat the global HIV/AIDS pandemic. Read about PEPFAR and the U.S. Government’s global HIV/AIDS activities.
  • Read our blog posts on the U.S. Government’s response to the global HIV/AIDS epidemic.
  • View our video conversation with Mary Mahy of UNAIDS Exit Disclaimer at AIDS 2014 about the Gap Report.
  • On World AIDS Day 2013, the White House released a new fact sheet detailing our nation’s efforts to address the HIV epidemic, both domestically and globally. Read the fact sheet.

Source: http://aids.gov/hiv-aids-basics/hiv-aids-101/global-statistics/

Thank you!

Thank God for your relationships especially the ones closest to you. These close relationships are often the ones we ignore the most. So this season, do not neglect the people that love you the most- reach out, call, make contact and restore broken relationships as necessary.

A friend shared this story with me and I would like to share the same with you today.

One afternoon a shopper at the local mall felt the need for a coffee break. She bought herself a little bag of
cookies and put them in her shopping bag. She then got in line for coffee, found a place to sit at one of the
crowded tables, and then taking the lid off her coffee and taking out a magazine she began to sip her coffee and
read. Across the table from her a man sat reading a newspaper.

After a minute or two she reached out and took a cookie. As she did, the man seated across the table reached out
and took one too. This put her off, but she did not say anything.

A few moments later she took another cookie. Once again the man did so too. Now she was getting a bit upset, but
still she did not say anything. After having a couple of sips of coffee she once again took another cookie. So did the man.
She was really upset by this – especially since now only one cookie was left. Apparently the man also realized that only one cookie was left.
Before she could say anything he took it, broke it in half, offered half to her, and proceeded to eat the other half himself.
Then he smiled at her and,putting the paper under his arm, rose and walked off.

Was she steamed! Her coffee break ruined, already thinking ahead of how she would tell this offense to her family, she folded her magazine, opened her shopping bag,
and there discovered her own unopened bag of cookies.”

I like this story – it makes me think about how well God treats me even when I am not acting right.

To receive a gift and say, “Thank you,” is one of the noblest things a man can do. There is nothing small or trivial about it.

To say “Thank you” is to acknowledge that we have been given something we did not earn and do not deserve.

Happy is the man who understands that all of life is a gift of God and that life itself is the ultimate gift.

The Bible says, “In everything give thanks.” (I Thessalonians 5:18) When we can’t do anything else, we can always be grateful. As someone has said, “If you can’t be thankful for what you have received, be thankful for what you have escaped.”

As you spend time with family and friends, may the joy of the Lord, continue to be your strength, Amen.

‘Flo Falayi