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Day by Day

Today is the present.

Each day is a gift.

Precious, Unique and loaded with amazing opportunities.

Believe that.

Embrace it.

So look forward because the more you look backward, the less you see.

John Mason said, “Choose to be forward-focused, not past-possessed.”

Live for today.

Don’t let what you have within your grasp today be missed entirely because only the future intrigued you, and the past disheartened you.

Remember the past is past so consistently and consciously place your focus on what’s ahead.

Many spend so much time dreaming of the future, never realizing that a little of it arrives every day.

Be like Paul, who focused on one thing –

Forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forth to the things which are ahead.

Philippians 3:13: “Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.

Remember Relationships Do Matter


“Fate” – A Short Story

Bola Maxwell awoke to the jarring sound of her ringing cell phone. The clock on her nightstand said that the time was just 6:05am. When she looked at her phone, she recognized Ade’s number. She reluctantly accepted the call.

It had been a while, since their last conversation. Ade’s mum had made it clear that she did not approve of their relationship. She did not approve of Bola.

So, Bola had made up her mind to move on with her life. That meant limiting contact with Ade.

“Hello,” she greeted. Despite the fact that Bola forced a smile and he could not see her face, Ade could hear the hurt in her voice.

“Good morning, sweetheart,” Ade replied. “I am so sorry to have woken you up this early. We are getting ready to go to the Parliament Building … but Bola, please, pray for me.”

A part of her wanted to refuse.

Why should this, be her concern? She wasn’t good enough for Ade’s mum; why should she be good enough to pray with him about something so important?

Yet, she didn’t. She couldn’t. She just couldn’t bring herself to refuse.

Bola sat up in bed and said a few words of prayer for Ade. Then, she wished him well, with tears streaming down her face. On the other side of the line, Ade felt conflicted. He struggled with his emotions. He also tried to keep his grip on the phone, from slipping.

He was still as in love with Bola, as she was with him. He knew this, yet …

Then, Bola told him she had to go. She wished him well again and promised that she would watch the entire swearing-in ceremony. She would be at work, but there was a television set in her office cafeteria. All her work colleagues would be watching, too.

Two hours later, Ade was ushered into a waiting limousine, followed by his parents – the enigmatic Prof and Prof (Mrs.) Tejuoso. Together, they drove to the Parliament Building for the swearing-in ceremony. They were so proud of Ade, their first-born son. A respected lawyer, he had also recently been appointed to the position of Special Adviser to the newly-elected governor of the state. Ade would be sworn in along with the rest of the governor’s cabinet.

The program began right on schedule and the swearing-in ceremony went on without a hitch. Afterwards, the invited guests were directed to the reception hall for a stately luncheon.

Then, the new committee was expected to engage in a Q&A session with the members of the press who were present.

The first question was asked by a man in a blue suit, whose identity pass said he represented CNN. His question was directed at the new governor. “Your Excellency,” he began, “Congratulations on your new position.” Without a beat, he continued, “Sir, would you kindly confirm if it is indeed true, that you have a love-child you are secretly sponsoring and that her name is Bola Maxwell? When do you plan to acknowledge her before the whole world and tell us why you have decided to keep her a secret? What are your intentions towards her? Is the young lady aware that you, the newly sworn-in governor, are her father?”

It was a surprise that Mr. CNN had got so far with his questions. The security men hadn’t reacted with their usual speed. Perhaps, they were as stunned as everyone else. But they regained their composure and made to throw him out of the room.

But the governor disapproved. He signaled to them to leave the journalist alone.

He had decided to answer the questions.

“Yes, it is true. I do have a daughter named Bola Maxwell. I put her in an orphanage shortly after her mother’s death. I had to, because I couldn’t cope. Her mother died immediately after giving birth to her and I have been looking out for her, although she is not aware.”

There was a pause before he continued, “She has been well taken care of; I have seen to that. And it seems the time is now right for her to be told that she has a father in the governor’s house.”

Everyone was quiet, including Mr. CNN. He hadn’t really expected the governor to answer this really personal question. He was not surprised at the startled looks on the faces of many people in the room.

But he felt sorry for the governor’s wife, who looked like she was about to burst into tears. Maybe, she was just finding out about this. Or she may have had fore-knowledge, but never expected her husband to admit to it in such a public manner.

As for Ade, he was in a state of confusion. His mind was racing.

Were they talking about the same Bola Maxwell?

His own Bola – a governor’s daughter?

Was it possible? How could it be?

Bola had told him that she did not know her parents, as she was raised in an orphanage. It was not a secret that this was the reason his mother was vehemently opposed to his relationship with Bola. His mother said that she could not allow her first son to marry a girl whose background could not be verified. For goodness’ sake, the girl could be the child of anyone – including armed robbers, occultists, mentally challenged people or other unsavory or irresponsible characters. Why would any responsible, sane person leave their child in an orphanage? It was unfortunate for the girl, but she couldn’t risk her grandchildren having … any unsavory blood in their genes.

Ade also knew that Bola had been informed by the orphanage authorities, that someone had taken financial responsibility for her education. She had tried to reach theperson, out of curiosity and gratitude. But they wouldn’t provide her with any more information. So, she had left the matter of the person’s identity, alone. She preferred to believe that the person was an angel from God.

It was because of this angel’s generosity that she had attended the best schools that money could buy, all her life. In fact, it was at one of these schools that she met Ade.

Now, Ade looked at his mother. She looked like she was still in shock. He would wait till her shock faded.

What would she say, then?

Would she give her blessing to their relationship?

Would she even accelerate marriage plans, knowing that Bola was the governor’s daughter? After all, the governor had claimed Bola, publicly.

But there were also other questions on Ade’s mind.

How was Bola feeling, right now?

What would she say?

Would she still be interested in him?

Ade believed strongly that God would work things out in his favor. He was sure of one thing – he loved Bola, with or without this bit of good news.

What should Bola do?

Ibukunolu Ogunsina (Mrs)

Relationships Do Matter Columnist/Contributor

Don’t Throw IT Away #Commentary

What do you do when it no longer makes sense?

What do you do when what you’re expecting and hoped for is significantly delayed?

What do you do when your desires and dreams seem unattainable?

I wrote this article broadly yet I had singles, especially older singles in mind as I pondered.

For some singles, the struggle is real…If one is slim, yet we wonder if one would be better off bulkier or well built.

Or if one is tall, we imagine what life would be like a little shorter.

Ok maybe these ones would resonate better –

Those married sometimes envy the freedom of singleness especially those of us with children.

And certainly, for those still single, the promise of companionship in marriage can’t come soon enough.

You get the point…oftentimes what we have isn’t enough or as important as what we don’t have.

So at this crazy juncture, we ponder and wonder…

We struggle with the temptation of just throwing it all away.

We ponder whether the path is really tried and true.

I have been there…
So many of us are stil there…
Some are yet to arrive there…
And I know what you are contemplating.

Yet…I want to encourage you not to
Throw “It” Away…

To be continued.

Story: The Mousetrap

This is an interesting/educational story that highlights why community matters. It is true that there’s safety in good counsel and a fact that more can be done collectively rather than individually. Read on…

A mouse looked through the crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife open a package.

What food might this contain?" The mouse wondered – he was devastated to discover it was a mousetrap.

Retreating to the farmyard, the mouse proclaimed the warning: There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!"

The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said, "Mr.Mouse, I can tell this is a grave concern to you, but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it."

The mouse turned to the pig and told him, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!"

The pig sympathized, but said, I am so very sorry, Mr.Mouse, but there is nothing I can do about it but pray.

Be assured you are in my prayers." The mouse turned to the cow and said "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!"

The cow said, "Wow, Mr. Mouse. I’m sorry for you, but it’s no skin off my nose."

So, the mouse returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer’s mousetrap alone.

That very night a sound was heard throughout the house — like the sound of a mousetrap catching its prey.

The farmer’s wife rushed to see what was caught. In the darkness, she did not see it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught.

The snake bit the farmer’s wife. The farmer rushed her to the hospital , and she returned home with a fever.

Everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard for the soup’s main


But his wife’s sickness continued, so friends and neighbours came to sit with her around the clock.

To feed them, the farmer butchered the pig.

The farmer’s wife did not get well; she died.

So many people came for her funeral, the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide enough meat for all of them.

The mouse looked upon it all from his crack in the wall with great sadness.

So, the next time you hear someone is facing a problem and think it doesn’t concern you, remember — when one of us is threatened, we are all at risk.

We are all involved in this journey called life. We must keep an eye out for one another and make an extra effort to encourage one another.



Author: Unknown but acknowledged.

Make Your Intentions Known. Go For It #NOW

The cost of inactivity, passivity, procrastination or ignorance is steep regardless of the opportunity. There is a popular adage that highlights the price of missing out on one’s future spouse due to inaction. May your lot not be as described…"fetching water".

Simply put, #Guys make the move now.
Don’t delay! Be #Bold. do not fear the#NO. You’ve got a 50% chance everytime.

Do it Now.

Good People – Identify, Acknowledge and Celebrate Them.

Learn to ‘read’ people and when you identify those around you that care about you, are committed to your goals, dreams and are not intimidated by your success.

First of, you are extremely fortunate because those people are special and good people.

Secondly, do the following-
Treasure them
Acknowledge them
Celebrate them
Listen to themModel them.

Lastly, remember that opposition is in abundance and there are many negative voices and downright evil detractors all around so – Keep ‘good’ people around.