This prevailing mindset is a big problem in the Nigerian society. A drastic, aggressive reorientation is needed.
“This pressure is especially more intense for the women-(sadly because our ‘biological clocks’ are always ticking- as we are often too readily reminded!) so that ‘marriageable’ ladies see their continued singleness as a curse- in fact it isn’t unusual to see comments to this effect on these websites. And so every ‘Segun, Obi and Musa’ (my Nigerian version of Tom, Dick and Harry) who pays her the least attention is dubbed ‘husband material’ – ‘the one’.”