I am lonely…

Dear Friends,
Thank you for taking out time to read and voice your opinions while I sort myself out…literally.

So here goes…
I remember reading, many years ago, an interview with actress Nicole Kidman where she said this about meeting her husband musician Keith Urban and their subsequent marriage:

”I think we were two lonely people. I would probably say that two very lonely people managed to meet at a time when they could open themselves to each other,” she says. “We were a mixture of frightened and brave.”

I remember thinking then that she was pretty brave to admit to being lonely. I find myself sometimes scared to tell anyone I’m close to that I’m lonely. Most of the people around my age are dealing with children, spouses and don’t really have time to hang out, go out to places, etc. Sometimes, it seems like single women are only interested in other single women if they can meet men through them. Ha ha.

But is loneliness a good enough reason to want to be with someone? What are valid reasons for wanting to be with someone?

Please help me because I am…"Alone in the City"

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  • Adetutu Osofowora

    Unnnn, how do I say ds wthout sounding like a spiri-koko gymnast woman o but really, wat ds person really needs is Jesus, d truth is u can’t really be hopelessly lonely wen U have Him in ur life. I particularly like d message version of psalm 23 wch says: 1-3 GOD, my shepherd! I don’t need a thing. You have bedded me down in lush meadows, you find me quiet pools to drink from. True to your word, you let me catch my breath and send me in the right direction. 4 Even when the way goes through Death Valley, I’m not afraid when you walk at my side. Your trusty shepherd’s crook makes me feel secure. 5 You serve me a six-course dinner right in front of my enemies. You revive my drooping head; my cup brims with blessing. 6 Your beauty and love chase after me every day of my life. I’m back home in the house of GOD for the rest of my life. Look at verse 6! d truth is dat all of us will be lonely at one point or anothr in our lives, believe me, even ppl dat are hapily married get lonely bcos there is a limit to how far ur spouse can meet some deep longings of ur heart, he or she is but flesh & also has needs, d only person who can feel every empty crevice & meet every need is d Lover of our souls, so though I know I sound quite spiritual but ds is d only real & lasting

    • I love the insightful response to this issue because everyone faces loneliness and the appropriate response is to first of all, know that and also know that help is always available in the midst of loneliness. This reminds me of the poem, footprints.

  • Cynthia

    To Adetutu, I think your answer is a little spiri koko-ish. Lol. No offense, but wetin concern agbero with load? A woman says she’s lonely, is it Jesus that she will go to the mall with? Or the movies? Or who can give her feedback on her constantly-angry boss? We are still on earth. When we are in Heaven, we can be hanging out with Christ.