No 2014 resolutions for me.

I am done with resolutions so there will be no 2014 resolutions for me.

Let me explain, ever since I realized that most of my typical ‘end of year resolutions’ (most, not all) make me feel like a failure rather than a success and guess what they also leave me with some guilt trips. So I’ve given up on that approach as a means of tracking and measuring my progress, now I have a VISION.

I can’t even explain why I found it so hard or was so tough on myself over missed gym appointments or devotionals or reading assignments. Fortunately, I have since adopted a simpler process that works perfectly for me and I hope for some of you with similar feelings or sentiments will find the typical resolution approach.

It’s so simple and yet so powerful, I call it the three things. These 3 questions allow me to cut to the chase and focus on my growth/development and purpose.

So every year, I find a quiet place and assess, critically assess everything – what worked (successes, achievements, completed goals) and those that are still pending, failures which are simply learning opportunities as well as those goals I’ve ignored or abandoned and I ask myself these 3 questions.

In 2014 –

What will I continue (keep) doing in the new year?
What will I stop doing in the new year?
What will I start doing in the new year?

Let me share with you an example for the new year.

In 2014 –

I will continue to read the book of Proverbs every month.
I will stop over loading my schedule.
I will start an appreciation log and celebrate family and friends at least once a month.

So here’s wishing you and yours a wonderful New Year filled with precious blessings.

God bless and the indeed, the best is ours in 2014.

‘Flo Falayi, Ph.D (c)
Founder, Relationships Do Matter

2014 is going to be our year.


  • I love the concept of your new year resolution. Also, I haven’t set new year resolution but rather I have set a vision for next year.

    I also read the book of Proverbs, a chapter everyday.

    Wishing you a prosperous Year 2014.