Part 5 of ’12 Things my True Love said to me.’ By Sabine Adeyinka. (RDM Contributor)

When I got accepted into secondary school, the list of things to bring to the boarding house included two white bed sheets for formal occasions like Saturday dormitory inspections. I notice the same fixation for white sheets still hold true today. The best hotels come with beds laid with crisp white sheets and fluffy white pillows. In fact many people reject a hotel simply because they have multi-coloured sheets. So what’s the fascination with white bed sheets? They make the hotel seem cleaner because you can’t really hide dirt in white sheets. I think this is what the bible meant when it said in Hebrew 13.4

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

God is mostly concerned with the inner-man so white sheets in God’s eyes would mean more than ‘DO NOT sleep with anyone before marriage and cheat on your spouse.’

The 5th thing my true love said to me was: ‘Keep the world right out of your marriage bed.’

Many of us got all we know about love and intimacy from books, movies and friends that didn’t have God in mind at all. When we come to Christ, we lay all those things down and get our minds renewed to God’s way of doing things. For

instance, God’s idea of intimacy is, ‘to forgive those who trespass against us.’

If you carry a grudge to bed, it’s like a rainbow-coloured sheet in an ungraded hotel.

This is true for everyone, especially those who share their sheets with another.

Besides, grudges sap your energy. You can’t possibly be good at intimacy, let alone initiating it when you carry hurt inside of you? Marriage is tough and it can be difficult to offload all the challenges but God never meant for us to do it alone. He meant for you to come to him every morning and every night meditating on his word and offloading the stresses of the day. He said it this way to Joshua:

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.

I can’t say I know the secret to successful relationships but this would be a good place to start.

– Sabine