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Porn in the Church: The High Cost of Silence

Maybe silence is better…I wonder silently to myself yet I can not keep silent any longer.

it doesn’t matter much someone quips but I know better, I have seen worse. The arguments over locked phones, the incessant, addictive ‘browsing’ habits late at night away from the prying eyes of spouses, siblings and friends are ‘dead- give away’. So dear ones, these ‘numbers’ are true and the silence is destroying us.

So while it’s convenient to remain silent on the deeper issues, look the other way stay shallow with niceties, quotes and verses. Yet, I am compelled to confront the real issues- might lose a few friends but overall gain more so its a no brainer. I MUST!

if you are keeping score, let it be measured in homes saved, lives protected, children whose innocence is preserved…these are the real scores not the public praises but the private accomplishments.
The attack and battle is clear – the devil’s plan is a three-pronged one: to steal, to kill and to destroy. To steal/kill/destroy relationships, families, cities, neighborhoods, nations, organizations, souls and lives. These are the real victims crying for help.

In the book, Porn Free Church; Bill Perkins shared a story in the introduction that I have heard reiterated in similar fashion many times, please read below:

Several years ago I performed the marriage ceremony for a young couple. Both had grown up in Christian homes and done well professionally. She had won the state’s “Best Teacher” award, and he was a successful salesman. They completed six weeks of premarital counseling with me and also met numerous times with a professional therapist. They seemed on course to have a healthy and fulfilling marriage.

But things were not as they appeared.

Six months after their wedding I received a phone call from the bride. “Bill, I just found out Jason is addicted to porn.”

“How did you find out?” I asked.

“I pay the bills and noticed some unexpected credit card charges,” she said. “I asked about them and his explanation made sense. I mean, I wasn’t even suspicious. And then one day I was looking for something on his laptop and out of curiosity, checked his browsing history. What I saw made me sick. I then did some research on the credit card charges and discovered they were to an online company with a bogus name—it’s a porn site, and he has been paying for adult video-chats.”

“Did you ask him about it?”

“I asked,” she said. “Initially, he denied it. But when I started to power up his laptop, he came clean. He admitted he had been hooked on porn since he was a teenager.” I wish I could tell you this story ended well, but it didn’t."

He further asserted that –

Hiding Creates a Greater Problem

When something is forbidden, or banned on grounds of morality, it becomes taboo. Nothing in the church is more taboo than sexual sins. Indeed, the hallmark of Christian virtue is sexual purity. The Bible repeatedly tells us to abstain from sexual immorality and pursue purity (1 Thess. 4:5; 2 Tim. 2:22; 1 Pet. 1:14; 2:11; 1 John 2:16). And so as believers we should set a high biblical standard of sexual purity and condemn sexual sins.

The problem is, when we hammer away on the evils of sexual sins people decide not to talk about them at all. And since it’s not talked about, everyone assumes there is no problem. Or, if there is one, it’s with other people.

Moreover, the taboo nature of sexual sins in the church makes them more exciting to commit. While doing research for one of my books on addictive behavior. I conducted a telephone interview with a leading expert in the field of sexual addictions. He told me, “I believe evangelical Christians have a greater tendency to fall into sexual addictions than any other sub-culture in the United States.”

When I asked him why, he said, “Because sexual sins are so taboo in the church people find them more exciting."

Culled from The Book, "Porn Free Church"

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  • Funsho

    Many sexual imoralities committed in the church are seen as devils work as devil takes over the church in order to save marriages or individuals involved, the church pretends nothing is happening. As corruption takes over the society, naivity swallows the church.

    • Funsho, you are so right. We’ve got to be wiser than that and be more responsible. Let’s keep the glorious truth on this issue and eliminate the ignorance and or silence surrounding a potential evil.

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  • One of the most common sins throughout the entire world is sexual immorality and with it sexual temptation. This has been something that the devil has been tempting people of various ages and backgrounds with and successfully bringing pain and reproach, as well as spiritual death upon them. Even King David experienced sexual temptation and yielded to this deadly sin (2 Sam. 11:2-5).