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Marriage = Hard Work; So Roll Up Your Sleeves.

It has been an interesting week and just before the weekend kicks off I wanted to stir the pot. For many who so desperately long for marriage, let me break the news to you as gently as possible.

Marriage requires a lot of hard work. It’s indeed a ‘what you put into it, is what you get proposition’. Don’t panic! I didn’t say Marriage is impossible, I simply said it demands your commitment and that’s hard work. By hard work, I am simply stating the obvious and preparing you for what lies ahead. Hard work doesn’t eliminate the fun, passion, excitement and fulfilment but it means ‘children’ should be barred from engaging in it until they are matured enough to appreciate and enjoy working hard for marriage will not work for the immature, lazy, selfish and self absorbed.

Manual:
If you’ve ever bought a piece of furniture that requires assembly especially those in multiple boxes then you can probably relate. Within those boxes (holding your beautiful pieces of furniture) are instruction booklets. Here’s the obvious, your beautiful furniture is dependent on your adherence, strict adherence to the series of instructions (including recommended tools, sequence etc).

If you trivialize the assembly process, you create a ‘monster’.
If you second-guess the instructions, you waste time.
If you outsource the instructions, you display your lack of knowledge.

Actually, your absolute adherence doesn’t make you dumb, it confirms your wisdom. It saves you time, it makes you happy and fulfilled. I can see you smiling already.

So why don’t we apply the same approach to these ‘marriage’ instructions?
Roll up your sleeves.
Make some room.
Place a ‘do not disturb’ sign on the door.
Now read below.

Here are the four ‘Must Dos’ for Every Husband. (Single Men, take note and confirm if you are ready)
Using the perfect allegory from Eph 5:25-28 (MSG)

Husbands, go all out in your LOVE for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—

  1. A love marked by GIVING not GETTING.
  2. A love that makes the bride WHOLE (proud, bold, confident and assured).
  3. Your WORDS must EVOKE her beauty consistently.
  4. Everything you do and say is designed to bring the BEST out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness,

That is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.

Wives surprisingly, here is the one ‘Must do’. (Single Ladies, read below to confirm if you are ready)

Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise SUBMIT to their husbands (not to another man, only your husband please).

Let’s agree to disagree, but these are non-negotiable.
Now are you ready for hard work, oops marriage?
pFlo

“An Open Letter”

Dear “S”,

It’s starting to feel like Spring. I hope and trust this meets you well. This is a follow up to our conversation about your journey, yep that ‘relationship’ journey filled with its numerous challenges and fun. LOL! I understand the expectations, the dos and don’ts’. Does it get easier, you ask?

Well, I know how you feel. I really do feel your pain; you’re struggling, pressured, overwhelmed and frustrated. I sense your desire to give up, you’ve said it numerous times that it’s probably better to be average than go all out. You posit that it’s easier that way; easier to deal with anguish, disappointments, failures and intermittent victories if you are average. Maybe it won’t hurt that much…

If I can just be honest for a moment, average and it’s dull amber lights teases you to succumb to it’s lies, it’s easy it seems considering how common and popular it is. I do admit that there is a tendency to assume here and as I speak to others just like you, there is no denying the fact that this is one of the biggest issues many singles face daily. The monster called peer pressure, the pressure to succumb to the majority, to fit in and to be accepted.

Can we just talk ? Can I be frank?
Why bother you ask?

Why bother confronting average, a state many would rather assume is ideal?

Why be different when it’s easier to blend in?

Well, before you tune me out understand that isn’t about the past; our past is past but about the wondrous opportunities in our future. Ever since I met Grace, my perspective has changed. For this ‘Grace’ in the book of Titus 2, verse 11- 15 appeared with an agenda for mankind and quickly became to teach all what and how to deny, embrace, accept, adopt and display. See in my line of work mentoring, counseling and raising singles and leaders, I have realized it’s not about ease or convenience but obedience.

The injunction to stand out is not convenient at all.

You know this much don’t you?

  • It has never been easy to walk by faith in this generation and culture.
  • It has never been easy to live righteously.
  • It has never been easy to make a difference.
  • It has never been easy to do what God‘s word requires, demands, expects, commands and instructs.

Honestly, it has never been easy, so forget easy. It’s always been by Grace.

Join me for an hour long free tele-conference, it’s an hour long ‘Not for the faint of heart’, Sex & Single Conversation where all singles, Christ followers are challenged to step up and set a new standard for this generation! Don’t hide, don’t give in, don’t dismiss it…issues, questions and much more. I know you’ve got many questions and I think we better talk. Check it out first, keep your opinions at bay, click here – http://eepurl.com/jRyW5

 

PS: Some of the lessons for a successful relationship include numerous biblical insights, quotes, ideas with an appreciation of both sexes, male and female as well as wise counsel from my mentors who paved the way. These insights are in my new book, ‘Relationships Do Matter’ and from which I will be sharing with you on the free conference call. So what are you waiting for?

pF*

 

Whitney took America to Church…(Feb 18th, 2012)

America went to Church.

America went to Church on Saturday, when Whitney’s mother decided to hold a burial/farewell ceremony in Church, what transpired afterwards is nothing short of remarkable. There are other numerous lessons and angles to every story especially those involving celebrities, but here is my ‘extremely subjective’ observation of the events on Saturday, February 18th, 2012.

These comments were not lost on me…

  1. Tyler Perry‘s emphasis on Grace. I can relate because the prodigals understand their second chances are due to the G.R.A.C.E of God. (God’s Riches At Christ‘s Expense).
  2. Death is not the final answer. According to Bishop Jakes, Death isn’t permanent…it’s a route! Death has no more sting.
  3. Kevin Costner‘s story about his background in a Baptist church was enlightening. ‎”Tongues” he mentioned at some point during his speech and that made me smile. The gospel preached…anyway, anyhow God be praised!
  4. Times Square was in on the action too, click here http://instagr.am/p/HKAsCIPjsL/ remember the injunction that the gospel must be preached to the nooks and crannies of the world? Thanks to CNN, a generation that had never attended a church service saw one from the comfort of their homes. PS: People get ready…Jesus is coming back very soon.
  5. A language you don’t understand is normal in church…Rev Marvin Winans (paraphrased) and when he preached on PRIORITIZING, a message on seeking God’s Kingdom first, I found it touching and pertinent to all of us in this Nation. It’s time we get back to God indeed and sincerely. We must not think for a moment that being a Christian (a believer in Christ) is irrelevant! Abundant life is in Christ.

Whitney’s passing, highlighted something many of us underestimate, the importance of HOME.

  • She had a ‘HOME’, where she began, learnt about God, a place where she discovered her gift and started using her gift.
  • She knew her ‘HOME’, not the structure but the faces and the people who fondly referred to her as Nippy and openly expressed their grief and pain.
  • She remembered her ‘HOME’, she didn’t forget her roots despite her meteoric rise to fame.
  • She love her ‘HOME’.

Her ‘HOME’ was CHURCH, FAMILY, FRIENDS

Let me remind you please -

  • Don’t forget your ‘HOME’.
  • Don’t forget the ‘little things’ while you pursue the ‘big’ things.
  • Don’t forget tomorrow is not guaranteed, make sure you invest today wisely.
  • Don’t forget that G.R.A.C.E is so readily available for all. Contact me for more details, EMAIL ME

Now let the church say Amen…

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Yours,
pF*