“A Lady With A Past” – A Short Story

Image “Hi, I’m Genevieve…”

He twitched and for the first time in two years, I sincerely wished, prayed, begged God he didn’t recognize that name. I had grown accustomed to it, the twitches, cringes, and plain old look of disgust. Some just walk away. Others have the effrontery to question me.

“How could you?” “What did you plan to gain?” “You could have just shut your mouth.” “Deal with it, jor!” On and on and on. Those had not bothered me. Amazing that instead of getting bitter, I grew strong. Wasn’t that what the truth did, set you free? Whether the people who heard liked it or not.

“Dave…” We shook hands and he held on to mine. “Your name sounds awfully familiar. Did you live in Lagos four years ago?”
I smiled. Diplomacy. Sure I lived in Lagos till two years ago when the heat grew too much and I relocated to Port Harcourt where I had more friends and family than foes. Many had advised me to not move.

“People will think you are running away.”

Well I was. He who fights and runs lives to fight another day. I was fighting so many other days here, worshipping in a small church where they all accepted me despite my reputation or lack of it. My small sized business did well, and I could pay my bills. What more did the renowned Genevieve want in life?

Two years like yesterday.

“I lived in Lagos till two years ago.” He smiled. Oh, such gorgeous smile. “I know you then, by reputation.”
Blunt. “Or the lack of it.”

He smiled wider. “Pleased to meet you.”

He was cutting me a huge deal, might I add someone important to the future of my business. Of course, it had become a taboo for me to express any affection or emotions for a man. Knowing who I was, or am, or supposed to be. Another Monica Lewinsky. Another little fox that spoils great vines. Hmm. What did I not hear my name changed to? However, it is well. I smiled. “I’m glad.” I brought out my proposal.

He looked at it, and didn’t touch it. “Can we talk over dinner?” My mouth dropped open. Of course I didn’t need any endorsement. In fact after the scandal that set me free, despite the talk, I didn’t have interest in any male.

“This is business,” I said.

He frowned. “I know. But I’m more interested in the dinner.” He shrugged. “Please?”
“I’ve not done dinners in a while.”

“Then, please.”

I struggled. This wasn’t easy for me. I was attracted to him, something that had not happened in ages. He was a business contact, someone who had investment interests in my fashion business. But at the moment, I needed his attention, so I shrugged.

He chose the dinner location. We had a fun night. And he asked to see me again. To another dinner to talk business. Which didn’t happen again because he asked for another date.

I later learned there wasn’t meant to be any business talk. Someone had done this match-make. Someone had been tired of the hard life I subjected myself to. No socials. No relationships. I was almost a nun in the church.

My friend and sister had told him to meet me. They’d told me he was a businessman looking for investment in small businesses. Of course, they didn’t tell him my name. Or who I was. Just that the only reason I’d agree to meet him would be to discuss business. And he played along, a bachelor looking for a good woman to marry. I’d say my loved ones had a good sense of humor. I don’t know how many out there thought I was a good woman. Not that it mattered.

Courting Dave helped me to move on. Like most Christians who heard when the story of the silly girl and big celebrity pastor burst, Dave had shrugged and moved on. But meeting me, falling for me, loving me, and later marrying me taught us both many lessons.

God can indeed use anything, anyone, to confirm his truth. All God needs is a yielded vessel. If it’s the truth, God will sort the rest.

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Turning Around for Me

It’s Turning Around Me…Be encouraged.

Tears turning into Joy.
Faith and Patience for the journey.
Light in lieu  of darkness.
The Lord will perfect all that concerns you.
A change is coming.
God is turning it around for us.
Stand in Faith, Doubt Not!


Faith and Feminism: Excerpt from ‘Talking Taboo’ examines sexual temptation.

It’s Thanksgiving Tuesday and here’s another thought provoking and insightful article from the Washington Post. This isn’t your typical, linear or easily resolved conversation or piece so if you are easily offended or disturbed by such stories stop reading now. Some, who struggle find no easy outlet because sometimes the public response seeks only to mask the issue and not necessarily fix and address appropriately. This story reaches deep, captures one’s attention, highlights tensions and forces the conversation towards GRACE. Honestly, this is a story that really amplifies the need for Grace and also reminds me of the amazing description of Jesus in Matt 12:20, "He will not crush the weakest reed or put out a flickering candle. Finally he will cause justice to be victorious."

Here are some challenges posed by the writer from her experience, true or not there are excellent starting points for a debate.

  • I am beginning to realize how little the churches of which I have been a part have taught me about the beauty of boundaries and the reality of fine lines. No one really wants to talk about the normalcy of temptation and how, if unacknowledged, it can lead to behavior that goes against what is life giving, what is of God.
  • I get it now in a way I haven’t before; how temptation can slip slowly from shiny surfaces into the sin of unfaithfulness and undisciplined desire, from things that look good and usually are good, in the beginning. But no one talks about how to keep your balance on the slippery slope. No one wants to talk about it till everyone has slid right off.
  • Then every pastor, priest, and prophet begins to preach about Eve and Delilah, biblical women culturally synonymous with the evils of temptation and the fall of men.
  • I know the whole cultural conversation around “Can men and women be friends?” is as old as can be. So many evangelical-minded Christians have such firm opinions on the issue, mostly that it’s not possible or wise. But no one really talks in a healthy, reflective way about the real point of the issue: how to deal with sexual temptation in platonic relationships between heterosexual men and women.

Read the article, here. Faith and Feminism: Excerpt from ‘Talking Taboo’ examines sexual temptation. and if you need help, do not hesitate to contact or reach out (click here).

Remember, Relationships Do Matter
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Scriptural Reference: New Living Translation Version

“Someone needs You” – Kelechi Okeahialam (featured contributor)


Loneliness, sometimes can not be explained… it is a state of feeling totally alone and often ‘un-needed’ in this fast paced world of ours. It shows up after a bridal or baby shower, a romantic wedding, when you drive home after a marvelous lunch with your best girls; when the silence of your home hits you at the door, night after night.

When you cling unconsciously to that dying moments of a wonderful movie, or when you look longingly at a couple in love. You tell yourself you’re alright, you’re doing good; and sure you are.

You are grateful to God for His many blessings and the love of family and friends…but then sometimes… you feel this gnawing emptiness… this longing to belong to someone, to be claimed by the one who loves you truly?


If you are a lady in waiting and the wait has become a solid structure that seems to have no intention of fading into oblivion… this is for you.

Somewhere out there… someone is longing to be everything to you… I pray for you today my lady in waiting, that he will reveal himself to you according to the timing of God. You are precious, you are beautiful, you are beloved… Never, ever forget that. – Kelechi Okeahialam

Sister girl, you are Everything To Somebody
Right now at this very minute
Someone is very proud of you
Someone is thinking of you
Someone cares about you
Someone misses you 

Someone wants to talk to you
Someone wants to be your friend
Someone hopes you aren’t in trouble
Someone wants to give you all the support you need.
Someone wants to hold your hand
Someone hopes everything turns out all right

Someone wants you to be happy
Someone wants to get very close to you
Someone wants you to spend all your life celebrating your successes
Someone wants to give you a gift
Someone think you ARE a gift
Someone hopes you are not too cold, or too hot

Someone wants to hug you
Someone loves you
Someone wants to lavish you with everything you’ll ever want in life
Someone admires your strength
Someone is thinking of you and smiling
Someone wants to be your shoulder to cry on

Someone wants you to go out and have a lot of fun
Someone thinks the world of you
Someone wants to protect you
Someone would do anything for you
Someone wants you to be forgiven
Someone is grateful for your forgiveness
Someone wants you to go out and have a lot of fun
Someone thinks the world of you
Someone wants to protect you
Someone would do anything for you
Someone wants you to be forgiven
Someone is grateful for your forgiveness

Someone wants to laugh with you at all times
Someone remembers you and wishes you were there
Someone is praising God for you
Someone needs to know that your love is unconditional
Somebody values your advice
Someone wants to tell you how much he cares

Someone wants to stay up watching old movies with you
Someone wants to share his dreams with you
Someone wants to hold you in his arms
Someone wants YOU to hold him in your arms
Someone treasures your spirit
Someone wishes he could STOP time because of you

Someone praises God for your friendship and love
Someone wants you to put a little trust in him
Someone wishes that things didn’t have to change
Someone loves you for who you are
Someone loves the way you make him feel
Someone wants to be with you

Someone is hoping he can grow old with you
Someone hears a song that reminds him of you
Someone wants you to know he’s are there for you
Someone is glad that you’re his friend
Someone wants to be your friend
Someone stayed up all night thinking about you

Someone is alive because of you
Someone is remorseful after losing your Friendship
Someone is wishing that you would notice him
Someone wants to get to know you better
Someone believes that you are his soul mate
Someone wants to be near you

Someone misses your guidance and advice
Someone values your guidance and advice
Someone has faith in you
Someone trusts you
Someone needs your support
Someone needs you to have faith in him
Someone needs you to let him be your friend and more. – Anon

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Question: The Past

A reblog – When the Past is not Past, What do you do?

QUESTION: I am in a relationship with a Christian girl who wants to put God first and seek His will in our relationship. However, she has a very promiscuous and abusive past, leaving her with a permanent STD. I feel like I should end the relationship, but if she is truly repentant I believe I should be able to get past her issues and love her for the person she has become. Her past grieves me…it’s such a burden to me right now. Should I enjoy my time with her and let God do His work in our lives, or reluctantly part ways and search for someone else?

Read the responses here –  http://www.crosswalk.com/family/singles/he-said-she-said/he-said-she-said-when-the-past-is-painful.html

When the past is still affecting the future, it is not the past.
Relationships Do Matter,



The second half on the journey of favorite top 10 love quotes has begun.

  • To love is to see the invisible.
  • To love is to capture the supernatural.
  • To love is to venture into the realm of possibilities.

Here is #5:
“Whoso loves believes the impossible.” –Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Indeed, love makes all impossibilities, possible.

Believe that!


Love is in the air, each one of us has a unique responsibility to guard and protect love so that it doesn’t wane. Here is the next quote on my list of favorite love quotes. Remember a love dose a day, keeps fear, hate, sorrow away. Feel free to share yours too by the way. #love rules.

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish it’s source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” – Anais Nin