Can we be honest? Everyone’s looking for a perfect relationship yet no one is willing to work hard for it.
A vibrant loving relationship is indeed challenging mentally and physically but the feedback from those who put in the hard work and pay the price is encouraging, because they all confirmed the great success that follows the efforts. In their words, the rewards are well worth it! So don’t ‘cop’ out, put in the work necessary.
In the same spirit of being honest, there is no doubt that we all struggle with romance but personally I am finding that the key is in initiating, taking small steps, being consistent and never becoming complacent or insensitive. Some of the insights (tips) I hold dear till date came from David & Anne Frahm’s book, titled “How To Make Love With Your Clothes On” below:
- The firm foundations of a romantic relationship are built upon the delights of surprise
- Little things mean the world to women”
- Catching a woman off guard ‘now and then adds drama to a marriage, that most women crave.
Listed below are 10 ways to make love with your clothes on and I want to dare you to try them out, the results will surprise you.
- Leave a ‘provocative’ message for your spouse on the answering machine
- Open the car door for her, both getting in and getting out
- Call her during the day just to tell her you love her and that you’ve been thinking about her
- At an unsuspecting moment, sweep her into your arms and tell her that she’s your best friend
- Ask her opinion on an important decision you’ve got to make
- Pray with her over her concerns
- Compliment her on her appearance
- Tape a note to the bathroom scale that says “Just Right”
- Surprise her with flowers because it’s true that “Flowers like women, bring beauty into the world and they belong together”
- Make time to talk and listen
I will love to hear from you the ones that worked for you as well as others you are trying out or have tried or heard of. In addition, do you need help in your relationship(s), marriage or life? Remember, you are not alone, help is available. Email firstname.lastname@example.org
Author: ‘Flo Falayi, Ph.D.(c) is a preacher, speaker and author. A husband and father with a passion for reviving and empowering the next generation. Flo hosts and speaks at conferences, seminars and events nationally on Leadership and Relationship Mattters.
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- “Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” – Ann Landers
- “Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr. #RelationshipMatters
- “The sweetest of all sounds is that of the voice of the woman we love.” – Jean de la Bruyere #RelationshipMatters
- “A woman knows the face of the man she loves as a sailor knows the open sea.” – Honore de Balzac #RelationshipMatters
- “Love has no age, no limit; and no death.” – John Galsworthy #RelationshipMatters
- “Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.” – Henry Van Dyke #RelationshipMatters
- “Love is a game that two can play and both win.” – Eva Gabor #RelationshipMatters
- “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” – James A. Baldwin #RelationshipMatters
- “Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so.” – Ray Stannard Baker #RelationshipMatters
- “We can only learn to love by loving.” – Iris Murdoch #RelationshipMatters
- “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa #RelationshipMatters
- “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” – Jesus Christ
- “There is a woman at the begining of all great things.” – Alphonse de Lamartine #RelationshipMatters
- “A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.” – Brendan Behan #RelationshipMatters
- “Love is blind.” – Geoffrey Chaucer #RelationshipMatters
- “The course of true love never did run smooth.” – William Shakespeare #RelationshipMatters
- “You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; in just the same way, you learn to love by loving.” – Anatole France #RelationshipMatters
- “In the flush of love’s light, we dare be brave. And suddenly we see that love costs all we are, and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free.” – Maya Angelou #RelationshipMatters
- Love is always bestowed as a gift – freely, willingly and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love. – Leo Buscaglia #RelationshipMatters
- “Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery #RelationshipMatters
- “The hunger for #love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.” – Mother Teresa #RelationshipMatters
- “We need 4 hugs a day for #survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for #growth” – Virginia Satir #RelationshipMatters #Love
- “Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” – Robert Frost #RelationshipMatters
Which one of these struck you the most? Share your favorite in the comments below.
If I am out of place, my woman is vulnerable.
If she is out of place, I become exposed.
So are you vulnerable or exposed ?
Get back into your place, TODAY. HURRY at least one life is dependent on it.
5 Things Super Successful People Do Before 8 AM
Rise and shine! Morning time just became your new best friend. Love it or hate it, utilizing the morning hours before work may be the key to a successful, and healthy, lifestyle. That’s right, early rising is a common trait found in many CEOs, government officials, and other influential people. Margaret Thatcher was up every day at 5 a.m.; Frank Lloyd Wright at 4 am and Robert Iger, the CEO of Disney wakes at 4:30am just to name a few. I know what you’re thinking – you do your best work at night. Not so fast. According to Inc. Magazine, morning people have been found to be more proactive and more productive. In addition, the health benefits for those with a life before work go on and on. Let’s explore 5 of the things successful people do before 8 am.
Is this possible we might have found the missing relationship misnomer ?
Is it possible the men and women are looking at each other incorrectly ?
Is it possible that we’ve got our peculiarities and differences tangled up ?
You don’t say!
Or is it possible men are just so confused by what they think women want they themselves have it twisted ? Well, regardless of how far the pendulum has swung, let’s make it right.
Now, read this excerpt I found in my draft box this morning, SLOWLY.
“A woman would be much better off if she could distinguish the difference between a man that flatters her and a man that compliments her. A man that spends money on her and a man who invests in her. A man that views her as property and a man that views her properly. A man that lusts after her and a man that loves her. A man that believes he is God‘s gift to women and a man that REMEMBERS a woman was God’s gift to man.” – Anon
So what do you think ?