This month –

Your expectations will not be disappointed.
Your hopes will not be destroyed.
Your past will not overwhelm or destroy your present and future.

You will be bigger, wiser, bolder, richer and stronger as you continue to BUILD, DEVELOP, LEARN, DISCOVER life changing and relationships maximizing insights and revelation.

Victory, Success and Harvest will not manifest by casually observing life or events and by being passive.
You must be bold and courageous…do, be, act, love, pray, believe, reach etc.

Nothing will stop you in November…

Believe that!



Love Unmatched – 143 Million Orphans

Friends, This is love unmatched, when we love others not for what we can get in return.

My dear friend, Jason (Executive Director of…in his own words said this – “I recently had the opportunity to  speak at First Christian Church in Champaign, IL Chosen for Life Adoption Conference . . . Their purpose and passion is to walk alongside God’s people and seek to fulfill God‘s mandate to care for the orphan.

Watch the clip here: Click Here

Find out more about Jason and the work at ‘’, here.

21 SUGGESTIONS FOR S*U*C*C*E*S*S BY H.Jackson Brown, Jr.

21 SUGGESTIONS FOR S*U*C*C*E*S*S BY H.Jackson Brown,

  1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
  2. Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent.
  3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
  4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
  6. Be generous.
  7. Have a grateful heart.
  8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.
  9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
  10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
  11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.
  12. Commit yourself to quality.
  13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
  14. Be loyal.
  15. Be honest.
  16. Be a self-starter.
  17. Be decisive even if it means you’ll sometimes be wrong.
  18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
  19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the thing you didn’t do more than the ones you did.
  20. Take good care of those you love.
  21. Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud.

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Trayvon: More than Hoodies and Skittles.

“Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.

This issue of Trayvon Martin won’t disappear by avoiding it, because it touches the very fabric and nerve of our society. This pain is too raw, the tears too real and won’t be ignored until justice is served. Please do not equate this to a race issue, well actually please do because it is more than that it is a human race issue.

We can not ignore the pain of humanity for the Lord’s injunction is very detailed in Matthew 25:33– 40,

33 And He will set the sheep on His right hand, but the goats on the left. 34 Then the King will say to those on His right hand, ‘Come, you blessed of My Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: 35 for I was hungry and you gave Me food; I was thirsty and you gave Me drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in; 36 I was naked and you clothed Me; I was sick and you visited Me; I was in prison and you came to Me.’

37 “Then the righteous will answer Him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink? 38 When did we see You a stranger and take You in, or naked and clothe You? 39 Or when did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to You?’ 40 And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me.’

We also can’t forget the words of Dr King who said “Never, never be afraid to do what’s right, especially if the well-being of a person or animal is at stake. Society’s punishments are small compared to the wounds we inflict on our soul when we look the other way.”

Honestly, we can’t afford to look away when the open questions outweigh the answers. We can’t afford to look away when an unarmed young boy is killed based on perceptions. We just can’t look…away!

Synopsis: About a month ago, 17-year old Trayvon Martin was gunned down by the neighborhood watch captain George Zimmerman.
If you listen to the released 911 tapes (click here), something doesn’t add up but this much is true, a young unarmed black man is dead.

Reactions are swift, varied and diverse. For some it’s safe to observe from afar, others are moving closer to casually observe and interject and yet some are scarred by it and are vocal. Whatever, one does we must not forget that Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere, a popular quote by Dr King.

In the matters of life and relationships we must not forget that our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”
However, let me ask you to temper your anger and frustration with wisdom because no matter what our anger and rage is limiting and limited. Recall James 1:20, that declares, ‘Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.’ So what then ?

Let me enjoin you regardless of what you do (rally, protest, petitions, tweet etc), please make sure you do this too: PRAY, PRAY TOGETHER and PRAY CONTINUALLY!

  1. Pray for the Martin’s family and those families who have suffered similar avoidable fate.
  2. Pray the leaders (city officials, legal etc) will act judiciously and wisely to handle the frustration and injustice.
  3. Pray for the Justice department and the appropriate parties to get involved as required by law.
  4. Pray that everything associated with this case will not become exacerbated.
  5. Pray for this great country, USA to stand strong and not waiver under the strain of racial discrimination.
  6. Pray for reconciliation, healing, tolerance, peace and understanding.
  7. Pray that all will be well with all the pent up anger for we know that man’s rage does not perform the righteousness of God (James 1:20)

…and after you do, please ask your friends and family to please do the same.

Don’t worry JUSTICE will be served, don’t lose your hope and faith.

God bless,
Pastor Flo
The Riverbank Church, Chicago

Is Valentine’s Day, OVER RATED ?

Romance is a challenge for many people and I think most men struggle with romance because of it’s inherent abstract nature. Well, considering most men are wired (subjective) to execute tackle tasks and activities with defined goals, it is not surprising then why we, men struggle.

As I travel conducting Relationship Matters Seminars and Singles’ events, I can wholeheartedly confirm this fact, Romance is a mystery, a topic that requires a teachable disposition. In order words, it is something one must learn, do, master and cultivate over and over again.

For more tips on Romance and other relationship insights, you absolutely need to get a copy of my new book, “Relationship Matters for Singles” that will be available next month – March 2012.

So we are about 48 hours removed from Valentine’s day, a day many expressed their love, affection to each other with gifts, candy, flowers and other gift items. In some circles, Valentine’s day is one of the most romantic days of the year.

Beyond Controversy:

My intention here is not to debate or recommend what people should do on Valentine’s day. I do however know that this day provides a perfect opportunity to show love without any reservation especially the redeeming love displayed by God in giving mankind is only begotten son, Jesus Christ.

The history books are filled with numerous stories about the origin of Valentine’s Day. Coincidentally, Valentine’s day is named in honor of an early Christian martyr, a holiday that was established in 496 AD and became associated with romantic love in the Middle Ages. (Additional information about the origin including it’s pagan background can be reviewed further in detail online). By the 15th century, it had evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, sweets, and greeting cards. Today, everyone including school children are involved in the heavily ‘commercialized’ holiday.

Current times:
Indeed, it is a day like no other; the agony, anticipation and associated pressure, of executing a flawless ‘event’ have left many fatigued and exhausted but I digress. Here are some surprising facts that really confirms how ‘big’ this day has become for some especially the retail industry.

  • The Greeting Card Association, an industry trade group, says 190 million Valentine’s Day cards are exchanged annually, making Valentine’s Day the second-most popular greeting-card giving occasion.
  • 65 percent of households send greeting cards on Valentine’s Day.
  • 73 percent of Valentine Day flowers are bought by men, while women buy 23 percent of Valentine flowers.
  • About 45.8 percent of U.S. consumers will exchange Valentine’s Day candy.
  • Even as the economy crumbles, today’s relatively tame Valentine’s Day celebration is expected to generate some $14.7 billion in retail sales in the United States.

A few weeks ago, I asked a simple question, ” Is Valentine’s Day Overrated on the Relationship Matters Page ? And by Over rated; I mean not as good as most people say it is, because it is “rated” higher than it deserves.

As you can probably imagine, the answers were intense, immediate, articulate and clear.
Here are some of the comments I got:


  • If it is wrong to celebrate Val’s day, we might as well just cancel birthdays etc. There’s absolutely nothing wrong in setting aside a day to celebrate love.”
  • Another stated, it is a day designed to remind everyone about their loved ones. A day of romance and spreading love.
  • Here’s another, “It’s all good as long as someone doesn’t go overboard and make me look bad!”
  • Unfortunately, someone stated people need this day as a reminder to appreciate their spouses/significant other.

AGAINST (There was no let down from the other side either)

  • ‎It makes the Singles sad and couples competitive with other couples.
  • It’s too commercialized and heavily based on whether one gets a gift or not.
  • Yet another stated that the the gift exchange has outranked the essence of what’s supposedly being celebrated when it comes to Valentine’s Day.
  • While someone said, I want gifts everyday or every other day especially when I am not expecting it.
  • Another comment was poignant, a ‘forced’ day to celebrate anyone on a specific day is borderline abuse.
  • If you need valentine in order to be reminded of what is and should be important, then you’ve got it twisted.
  • Someone said Valentine day’s is not even scriptural so we should even be talking about it.

Interesting points presented by both sides, this is my opinion though, if you had a wonderful valentine’s day and the following scenarios are true then it is overrated.

  1. If your relationship is back ‘normal’, by normal we mean absolute disregard for each other then valentine’s day is overrated.
  2. If the abuse, disappointment, shouting, shoving, pushing has returned then it is overrated.
  3. If married couples no longer see eye to eye and discuss issues respectfully with decorum, then it is overrated.
  4. If the loving support and intent to make the other individual better is long gone, then Valentine’s day and it’s associated hullabaloo is overrated.

However, if all of the above is not true then how can we say otherwise ?

One thing I do know is this: LOVE is not ‘OVERRATED’… It never fails, it actually cannot fail. It sustains, it does not force itself, it doesn’t keep score, it revolutionizes, nurtures, it doesn’t misbehave, it doesn’t disappoint, does not provoke, does not irritate, and isn’t always ‘me first.’ It says the truth always, does not lie, endures long. (Culled from 1 Cor 13).

It’s been more than 36 hours for all of us (regardless of time zones), let’s move beyond Valentine’s day and focus on celebrating Real Love everyday. Now, that can not be overrated or what do you think ?


Stats source: National Retail Association,