“When is it ever right to leave a marriage” – Lee Gardy (Reblog)

On the subject of divorce, there is a huge theological divide which is easily revealed in our responses. For some it is literally non-negotiatiable however I see these four reasons as great levers and conversational items for those who haven’t married yet.

In my humble opinion, Lee Gardy’s write up provides hope for those stuck between a rock and a hard place. The charge to tamper judgement with mercy is spot on as many of us in our haste to defend God’s honor obfuscate God’s mercy.

Hear this…
"In some conservative churches, leaders teach that divorce is never acceptable and that a person who chooses to divorce—even if they have been abused—is in sin if they leave the marriage. These hardliners will typically declare, "God hates divorce," quoting Malachi 2:16, and then suggest that even the innocent party in a divorce will be judged by God. That’s an unfair use of Scripture. God’s MERCY is bigger than that!"

"God certainly hates the pain, shame and family disintegration that accompanies divorce, but He also offers healing, restoration and freedom to people who have endured a marriage breakup. As we work to protect marriages and encourage strong families, let’s also leave room in our hearts—and in our theology—for people who simply cannot stay in irreparable relationships."

I really do understand Lee’s position stated here: "I don’t enjoy recommending divorce to anybody. God instituted marriage, so it’s sacred. It’s a holy bond that we should protect. Jesus Himself said, "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate" (Matt. 19:6, NASB). Yet in the same passage He mentioned immorality (v. 9) as an allowable reason for divorce. In a fallen world full of sin and unfaithfulness, divorce is not always avoidable."

Sad truth!
Uncomfortable reality? Perhaps.

Without a doubt this is a must read article, here are the 4 reasons why divorce might be recommended.

1: Unrepentant adultery.
2: Domestic abuse.
3: Emotional cruelty or control.
4: Spiritual incompatibility.

Read the entire article here:

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