Most of us are programmed culturally or otherwise with the knack to please, the desire to satisfy and meet every demand often to our own detriment. When this desire is expressed without restraint it becomes a disease with dangerous repercussions. Before long, it robs and limits our best work due to crammed schedules, tasks and deliverables. I discovered over the years that by saying no politely, firmly and without the associated guilts I noticed a significant difference in my work, focus and outputs.
Do you know that:
Leaders say No.
When we forget who we are or fail to be self-aware of our limited resources (time, talent and treasures) we succumb to the whims and caprices of others.
Protect yourself from yourself by learning to say No.
Saying No will help you manage the ever present fatigue, anger, frustration, bitterness and resentment that often stem from a place of over committing, over giving and going beyond what is reasonable.
Great leaders have mastered the art of saying No.
You might have to reprogram your mind, but there is great freedom in saying NO. Saying NO to the less important frees you up to focus on the more important stuffs. So get comfortable saying No. It’s OK!
So when should you say NO?
1. When you are tired, exhausted.
2. When you are over committed.
3. When you are over exposed.
4. When you are busy and focused on the critical tasks.
5. When you are under pressure.
6. When your life or health or sanity is at risk.
7. When you’ve spread yourself thin.
8. To any relationship — platonic, business or emotional that is antagonistic to your dreams and goals.
1o. To a job that is destroying your sense of well being.
11. When you’ve become a shell of yourself.
12. If saying Yes will lead to compromising your standards.
13. If saying Yes will make you betray promises or covenants.
14. If saying Yes, will remove your inner peace.
15. When you can no longer perform at an optimal level.
16. When you do not fully understand the rationale behind the demands.
17. When you do not comprehend your position or role.
18. When you are not ready.
19. When you do not feel like it (it’s ok).
Do you have more to add to this list? I’ll love to hear your thoughts.